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I recently have felt depleted and have found myself wondering what I can change in my life to feel more fulfilled.  It is very easy for me to tell anyone off the street what it is I need to feel good and strong and happy.  The problem is that I didn’t know how to make room in my life.  I love being a mom and a wife.  I just forgot how to be just Heather.  How silly does that sound?  I guess it is not that silly because I know it has happened to many moms.  Many types of caregivers give and give until one day they look up and don’t recognize themselves in the mirror.  Scary isn’t it?  Have you found yourself in this position?  I guess recognizing the emptiness is the first step…right?

Life is a journey…no one ever said you had to have it all figured out before you reach the destination.  Why do we still feel that we should?  Are we so afraid to admit to others that we really don’t have it all together all the time?

My hopes of sharing and being completely honest with myself and the people that read my blog that I can touch others that are probably going through similar situations.  I must say I have almost everything I could ever want in life…I just need to take care of me more.  I have found that when I have a shower, shaved legs and a fresh face of make-up on I am a better mom.  My attitude is better..I smile more and I have more confidence.  I feel so much better when I eat nutritiously and regularly.  My energy is more constant and I don’t have near as many highs and lows.  My body is desperately craving exercise.  I hardly ever sit down..yet I need core strength training, weight loss and toning. 

 In knowing all of this, I am going to make some slight changes to my life.  For starters, I am going to shower when the baby takes his nap.   No matter how much laundry or dishes I could be cleaning.   Secondly,  I started nighttime jogging.  As soon as the children go to bed.  It takes priority over anything else.  It helped clear my mind, recharge my batteries, time in prayer and meditation, time for processing the day and much more.  I instantly felt empowered.  I am amazed what a difference so far these changes have made in my life.  My question to my readers is who is going to join me in this journey?  The journey of taking care of you.  It may be as simple as sitting down to drink a cup of coffee.  I would love to hear from you.  I would love to hear how you find time to  feel like you in the midst of being a mom 24/7.   Hopefully we can join together so we don’t feel so alone.

Every woman has certain needs. Some women are very aware and free to admit to anyone and everyone they come in contact with that they demand all of the above. In society or according to most men these women are considered high maintenance. Then there are women that believe their men should know exactly what it is they need and when they need it…without ever telling them their expectations…only to find out they don’t even know what it is they really want. They usually are very disappointed at the end of the day and lost and confused.   These women are considered insecure.  There are also women that believe within themselves all they deserve in life down to every detail. They paint elegant pictures in their mind of the perfection their life and the world around them should hold.  They are dreamers.  They believe and see the good in all mankind.  They have high expectations for themselves, others around them and the world in which we live.   This describes the woman Read the rest of this entry »