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I recently have felt depleted and have found myself wondering what I can change in my life to feel more fulfilled.  It is very easy for me to tell anyone off the street what it is I need to feel good and strong and happy.  The problem is that I didn’t know how to make room in my life.  I love being a mom and a wife.  I just forgot how to be just Heather.  How silly does that sound?  I guess it is not that silly because I know it has happened to many moms.  Many types of caregivers give and give until one day they look up and don’t recognize themselves in the mirror.  Scary isn’t it?  Have you found yourself in this position?  I guess recognizing the emptiness is the first step…right?

Life is a journey…no one ever said you had to have it all figured out before you reach the destination.  Why do we still feel that we should?  Are we so afraid to admit to others that we really don’t have it all together all the time?

My hopes of sharing and being completely honest with myself and the people that read my blog that I can touch others that are probably going through similar situations.  I must say I have almost everything I could ever want in life…I just need to take care of me more.  I have found that when I have a shower, shaved legs and a fresh face of make-up on I am a better mom.  My attitude is better..I smile more and I have more confidence.  I feel so much better when I eat nutritiously and regularly.  My energy is more constant and I don’t have near as many highs and lows.  My body is desperately craving exercise.  I hardly ever sit down..yet I need core strength training, weight loss and toning. 

 In knowing all of this, I am going to make some slight changes to my life.  For starters, I am going to shower when the baby takes his nap.   No matter how much laundry or dishes I could be cleaning.   Secondly,  I started nighttime jogging.  As soon as the children go to bed.  It takes priority over anything else.  It helped clear my mind, recharge my batteries, time in prayer and meditation, time for processing the day and much more.  I instantly felt empowered.  I am amazed what a difference so far these changes have made in my life.  My question to my readers is who is going to join me in this journey?  The journey of taking care of you.  It may be as simple as sitting down to drink a cup of coffee.  I would love to hear from you.  I would love to hear how you find time to  feel like you in the midst of being a mom 24/7.   Hopefully we can join together so we don’t feel so alone.

To all parents out there that allow their children to have a little screen time with Max and Ruby.

Warning!

Too much television viewing of Max and Ruby can lead to one word sentences.  Just goes to show how influential our children are with everything they hear, see and touch.  The good news is that the syndrome is reversible.  Below are the steps to the cure.  Follow very carefully.

Step one:  Turn off the TV. Stop frantically cleaning the house that really never looks clean anyway.

Step two: Sit down with your child.  Don’t answer the phone if it rings or switch over the laundry. Resist the temptation.

Step three:  Be in the now. Read a book to your child. Do a puzzle together. Draw or do some kind of project.  It can be that simple.  Quality time vs. quantity.  Listen to your children…they speak the truth.

Take time with your children because they grow up so fast.  Be aware of the Max Syndrome it can sneak up on you.

There are a lot of beautiful, intelligent women out there wandering the earth with little or no sleep. The big question is how do you be a successful mom, wife, business executive, friend etc. on night after night of hardly any shuteye. My suggestions are as follows; all moms out there fake it till you make it. There is no nap today in the schedule and so we got to suck it up and Read the rest of this entry »